When What’s Special Becomes Ordinary

A new car, new pet, new relationship – having something or someone new in your life is fun, exciting, and well – NEW!

Do What Feels Right to You

How many times in a day do you feel like you should or have to do something you don’t want to do? It’s common to have resistance to things you don’t enjoy doing, like exercising or cleaning. Why is that true — especially when these things often aren’t difficult, so why do we resist doing… [Read More]

What If Your Highest Priority Was to be Happy?

Being happy means having more to give, being more available to opportunities, and handling more responsibility that leads to a fulfilling life. For most happy people it means feeling healthy, having a strong sense of well-being, and enjoying life. That all sounds good… but how do you get to feeling happy when so much of… [Read More]

What would you LIKE to think? The Biology of Thoughts, Part II

In my blog article, What are you REALLY Thinking? The Biology of Thoughts, Part I, (you can click here to read it), I talk about how the survival part of your brain has a tremendous influence on your thoughts, feelings, and emotions. Most of the 95% of the subconscious thoughts that occupy your brain essentially… [Read More]

What are you REALLY thinking? The Biology of Thoughts, Part I

As humans with an instinct to survive in the wild, we have been programmed to think in ways that will protect us from harm. As children, we developed coping skills and adopted beliefs from others that would keep us safe — which are still with us in our adult life. The survival part of our… [Read More]

Five Steps to Treating Your Body with Kindness

What would this look like? What if treating your body with kindness was the answer to feeling better, less stressed, more confident, and possibly to overcome an illness, injury or weight issue? First, let me share what the opposite of this might look like. Throughout my childhood, I watched someone who did not treat her… [Read More]

Cooperation, Collaboration, and Connection

Wouldn’t it be great if we could all get along? I had often asked myself this question – during my childhood when my family was conflicted or, as an adult, when I was working with high-conflict divorce families. Marital discord, sibling rivalry, and competing needs are what most of us experienced during our formative years…. [Read More]

3 Ways to Take Charge of Your Survival Brain

Have you ever hit a bullseye playing darts or at target practice? The same focus that it takes to hit the center of a target is what’s required to make positive lasting changes. Most of us can focus on what we want for a day or two or three, then old habits return. We really… [Read More]

20-Minute Philosophy

Have you ever said, “There are just not enough hours in the day!?”  All of us probably have heard and believed this at one time or another. My philosophy is a little bit different:  I believe twenty minutes a day can be life-changing — depending on how you use it. And, it might not surprise… [Read More]

One Right Answer

Were you the student in class who was the first to raise your hand when the teacher asked a question? If so, raise your hand! Or perhaps you weren’t that student and tried to make yourself disappear so the teacher wouldn’t call on you. Either way, you were taught that if there was a question,… [Read More]