Trust-Based Thinking

Trust-Based Thinking

Fear-based thinking in today’s world has many people in chronic fight or flight, regularly producing stress hormones which decrease their capacity to focus and to feel good.

Our brain was designed to help us survive. But over centuries we have developed an unconscious negativity bias – always on the lookout for danger even if it’s not necessary to our survival.

The human body wasn’t designed to be in chronic stress, and it’s taking a huge toll on our ability to function. We rarely have to fight for our lives but the amygdala (survival part of the brain) doesn’t know that. It even activates every time you see a human face tracking for anger or fear.

Think of how many people’s faces you see per day, “live” or in the media, which might be activating your fear detector!

We don’t need negativity bias

Happily, other parts of our brain save the day. The hippocampus and prefrontal cortex (the “thinking” parts of the brain) provide a context for us to interpret how serious the danger is. When our “thinking brain” gives feedback to our “survival” brain that we are safe and all is well, we can then respond to the situation rationally, calmly, and clearly. Without stress hormones coursing through our body!

When we dwell in fear-based thinking, we look outside of ourselves for dangers and threats. We don’t trust situations or other people or – more importantly – ourselves. This is a disempowering place to be.

We can change our “thinking” brain

We don’t have to allow our thoughts to lead from fear or with a negativity bias. It’s possible to change our fear-based thinking and still survive, in fact, thrive with a happier, healthier, and more abundant lifestyle!

If this sounds like something you would like to have, here are some questions to contemplate:

  1. What if I could tune into myself and know what’s right for me?
  2. What if I could have faith and confidence in myself and others?
  3. What if I knew, what decision to make, and what step to take, based on how I feel?
  4. What if I believed everything is here for me – the triumphs as well as the challenges?

What is trust-based thinking?

When we trust our “thinking” brain to tell us we are safe and not threatened, we can use our intelligence, wisdom, and intuition to see a situation clearly and make good decisions in response.

Trust-based thinking is possible! It takes being open to a new perspective and thinking differently about the role you play in your life – how much you’re willing to trust yourself and be in the driver’s seat of your life.

Start shifting from fear-based to trust-based thinking

“Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.” – E.E. Cummings

A great place to start is to repeat phrases or statements that have you feeling good, relaxed, and safe. I call these mantras, a reminder of what’s true for us. When you repeat them over and over in your head or out loud, they embed in your brain and become part of you. Practice repeating these first thing in the morning and the last thing before bed, as you brush your teeth or do other repetitive activities, when you meditate, or take a walk or hike.

You don’t have to do anything else but just allow them to sink in – no pressure, no stress.

Here are several to choose from; pick one or two that resonate:

At this moment all is well and I am okay.

At this moment I am safe.

At this moment I can relax.

At this moment I have everything I need.

Good things come to me – ideas, opportunities, people, and experiences.

A happy, healthier, and more abundant life is within reach when you shift fear-based thinking to trust-based thinking!